Remora: any of several fishes of the family Echeneididae, having on the top of the head a sucking disk by which they can attach themselves to sharks, turtles, ships, and other moving objects. Archaic. an obstacle, hindrance, or obstruction. (1)
Since my Mother died I have watched myself process this loss. How it affects me is ongoing and seemingly endless. But at the end of the day it all starts with death. Death is by definition the lack of life, and yes that’s bad but in my mind quantitative.
I have always pictured death as this darkness without any discernible form but I now believe that needs to be changed. What do I mean by that? Think about how death has affected you since you understood its concept? Hasn’t it altered your thinking throughout life? And then of course after death the effects continue for those alive. If death is by definition the lack of life then what are these other effects?
Those other effects are what I call ‘The Remoras of Death’. These remoras are forms of psychological and physical maladies that attach themselves to death.
Let’s be clear: I’m not dismissing or lessening death but just defining it as it truly is while separating it from the effects that result from death. By doing this death now has a discernible form while helping me begin to visualize the ‘Remoras’.
If these Remoras can be measured then they can be reduced! I know this thinking may be new but stay with me as I begin to build on this. The Remoras of Death Part #2 is coming!
Renz
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2 Comments
I believe it is important to celebrate a loved ones life at every opportunity. For instance- This weekend I took my daughter, Sam, to one of her mothers favorite restaurants. We celebrated her moms memory by having fun. We did not reminisce, just had fun like she was there with us.
I agree with your thinking and I like your positive and creative way of celebrating her Mother’s memory. Important to do? Absolutely! Thanks for sharing!
Renz